It is expected that each person will have their fair share of heartache and emotional wounding in life. It is how it is dealt with that will make the difference. This pain may be a result of an event, a memory or even a person and may be building up for years. This can be done away with when you commit yourself to starting over a new and building up yourself emotionally. If you want to overcome the pain of your past, here are five ways in which you can get the job done.
- Understand your emotions. Each person, after being wounded will create a story of what they understand to be the truth. This is often flawed and will hide the true pain that lies underneath. Perhaps you were young at the point of the incident so the understanding of life was limited, but now you will need to take a step back and take things into perspective. Take a look at what you’ve been telling yourself and try to see the areas that you have been trying to cover.
- Be compassionate. Once you have been able to get yourself to a place of understanding about what happened, then you will be able to observe your emotional reaction. Don’t be too hard on yourself and remember that you were faced with a situation that may have been overwhelming, to say the least. You had to create a set of beliefs in order to cope better with the situation. Do not chastise yourself but instead think about the fact that you’re handling it now!
- Embrace your emotions. You may feel the need to retreat into your shell once you feel an onset of emotion coming. Allow yourself to feel before you will be able to move forward. The more you take yourself through the experience the more equipped you will be to handle it; you may even realize things that you were not able to see before, important things. What happened before is not present, just try to think about the now.
- Feel the growth. As you begin to open yourself to healing more and deal with the onslaught of emotions, you will find that you start to feel better. You are finally able to give yourself the love and attention that you always needed. It is never too late and this is what you should try to remind yourself. Your awareness and love for yourself is a powerful weapon and in time the wound will begin to heal.
- Repetition is key. This pain is not something that developed over night and is not something that can be healed just as quickly either. Falling is easy but getting up is hard; you will have to understand this, get up and brush yourself off each time. Then, ask yourself what you have taken away from the pain. Have you learnt to be compassionate, loving or strong? This is something you will have to discover and enjoy!
